Dirty Things To Say To Your Boyfriend That Will Really Turn Him On!
Okay, so as I’ve mentioned in the previous post, I don’t like to make generalizations (I know I keep doing it, Grrr…), but let’s face it, guys, in general, are always going to be a lot more receptive to dirty talk. Which is of course a big relief for the majority of us girls who want to start talking dirty to them! The biggest challenge we usually face is to just get over our own inhibitions and learn the ability to vocalize those sexual thoughts and desires we yearn to share with our lovers.
So how can I start talking dirty with my boyfriend?
As I’ve said before, I feel it’s impossible to give anyone like a script of dirty things to say they can rehearse and recite to their partner, without making them look totally out-of-place. I find the real, sensual dirty talking really has to come from within a person, not some random dirty talk phrases that a complete stranger on the Internet told them to say.
Try to find out exactly what your guy desires from you. Most guys ideally want a girl who will both be great to “take home to mom” as well as having a wild sexual personality in the bedroom (they can’t have it all can they?). You can however be the most ordinary person in the world, and still be able to light your sex-life on fire within the privacy of your bedroom. It really is all about self-belief. If you can just let yourself go, there is really nothing else that can hold you back.
Guy’s like their ego’s to be brushed regularly, that’s a fact! If you give him plenty of validation for the things he does to you that you do gain pleasure from, that will definitely go a long way to making him truly lust for and desire you sexually. Try to make him feel unique, the best you’ve had (boost his sexual confidence). Also try to make him feel “special” in certain other ways (you know what I mean!). Do this and you will undoubtedly see some positive results in both his passion and performance.
For me, I believe you really do get back what you put in with dirty talking. The more you can turn your boyfriend on, before or during sex, the more you can expect from him in return. If you’re truly in love and trust each other, while your alone together, you shouldn’t be afraid to let yourself go. A very minimal risk taken for a potential huge reward is most definitely worth going for. Also, never be afraid to take the lead if he shy’s away from it, some “action oriented” men absolutely love strong-willed, sexually confident women controlling them with words in the bedroom.
My boyfriend asked me to talk dirty to him but I don’t know how!
Thankfully, my current boyfriend never just came out with it and asked me to start to talk dirty to him, (having no experience at the time) I think I would have been mortified! But, the fact that he did dirty talk to me, while making it feel truly amazing and natural, I found put an inevitable amount of pressure on me to learn how to be able to respond to him. I can in that respect, identify with the kind of pressure being put on you, if you find yourself put in this rather awkward position.
If your boyfriend has hinted at, or he’s even come straight out and asked you to start talking dirty to him, then he must of course have some hidden passion or reason behind it. For you, feeling like your being pressured into learning dirty things to say to him, can make the whole process much more difficult for you to overcome. At first you may think you would never be able to respond to him in that way, or you could never imagine yourself being able to say anything that will remotely turn him on.
Never say never though! I would suggest you try to manufacture some relaxed but intimate conversation between the pair of you. Then you can explain to him exactly how you feel about it, it will take you time to adjust to the idea and overcome what is holding you back.
I feel in a lot of the cases when your partner specifically asks you to talk dirty to them, they are in-fact looking for some kind of sexual reassurance. So by explaining this to him, it will also relieve him of any hidden, sexual inadequacy feelings he might have had. Feelings that could well have been generated from wondering why you haven’t been verbally expressing your sexual satisfaction to him.
Good communication between you as a couple is not only key to any healthy relationship, but it will make the whole process of learning dirty things to say a million times easier and less stressful for both of you.
I talk dirty to him, but how can I get my boyfriend to talk dirty back to me?
Of course you can’t force anybody to do something they don’t want to do. You can however, encourage them to slowly participate (get a carrot on that damn stick!). Try to reinforce their sexual desires with your own. Try to tease dirty talk out of them with suggestive words or actions with some suspense. Try to ask things that will lead him into opening up to you, not just ask simple, head-nodding, acknowledgement questions.
Most importantly, as with any kind of dirty talking, giving them time to respond and adjust is crucial. It just can’t be rushed. If they truly enjoy receiving dirty talk from you, they will know the kind of satisfaction it can bring. With a few tactical nudges along the way, they will more than likely take the hint (eventually!) that maybe you might enjoy receiving it too.
Things to avoid while your dirty talking to your boyfriend!
When you’re attempting to dirty talk to your boyfriend, I feel spontaneity really is an important factor for long-term, successful dirty talking. If you find yourself reciting the same lines, which you’ve had some success with, over and over again, can become very dull, extremely quickly. With subtle changes to your dirty things to say to him, along with some totally random sexual comments and complements thrown in here and there, you can really magnify the excitement levels as he will never know what to expect from you.
I also would really steer well clear of trying to change your voice to make it sound more “sexy”. By trying to change your voice you can make it look like your just putting on an act for him. If he feels it’s just a pretense you’re putting on to please him, believe me, that will be a major turn-off for any intelligent guy. However, you can try to adjust the tone your voice slightly to suit a level that matches your sexual excitement, while you’re talking dirty or during sex. If you really find yourself sexually excited, open up them lungs and let him (and the rest of the world) know about it!
I hope this post can at least help you to get in the right frame of mind for finding your own dirty things to say to your boyfriend. I honestly think you could end up surprising yourself, by finding out it really isn’t as difficult as you first might of thought. With a little friendly advice you can really leave your boyfriend in awe of your new-found, wild, sexual personality!